How do you maintain a healthy long-distance relationship?

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  trixxedheart

  2025-03-23

  Me and my partner met online and we've been together since 2019 (it will be our 6 years in August!) and have been long distance since due to our personal responsibilities. Much of it comes down to the same things any relationship does, equal communication and respect for each other's feelings. If you're not feeling good about something, talk about it in earnest with your partner, avoid being accusatory but letting the other know of your feelings. This **must** go both ways though. Set boundaries of what is and isn't okay, check in with the other to make sure you're not doing anything thats upsetting them. Let them know if they're doing anything thats upsetting you. Good, healthy partners respect each other's boundaries and feelings. If they are crossing your boundaries, lack respect for you (or vice versa) it is not love. You're going to miss them, a lot, you will miss their touch, their laugh, their presence. Do what you can to fill in those gaps, sometimes and my partner spend time with each other talking nearly every night about our days and playing games or watching shows online. We sometimes use VRChat to hangout in what few "physical" ways we can exploring worlds and goofing off. I think overall though the most important thing to remember is love really isn't like you see in movies. It's a quiet thing, a comfort you hold in your heart, something that makes life worth living, worth fighting for, and when the day is done, a home you can return to.

• KY

  kyzaow

  2025-03-23

  https://tenor.com/view/thats-the-neat-part-you-dont-invincible-gif-27194608

• NE

  nephar0775

  2025-03-23

  Portal gun

• ZE

  zeromadhero

  2024-01-15

  Call a lot, multiple hours a day. Involve each other in your daily lives. Send each other gifts.

• SH

  shiko1139

  2024-01-15

  100% communication is the biggest and most important thing

• MI

  min_eb

  2023-09-02

  恋愛か。。恋愛は感心ないからただの人間関係に対して返信する。 In my opinion, the most important factor of maintaining healthy relationships is to respect others and do recognize the high probability of misunderstanding when communication is held remotely. We often even misinterpret people's intentions and slight differences of nuances in face-to-face communication. What can occur in long-distance relationships is needless to say.

• UM

  umeshuwithsoda

  2023-09-02

  to be mentally independent, I don't wanna myself & my partner to zombi-check on a message app

• AN

  animekami1969

  2023-06-28

  It's hard and they don't usually work out (at least form me they don't, especially if your in different time zones), My advice would be tp communicate at a regular time you both have off (however this can change quickly depending on the situation), burnouts are inevitable but the only thing you can do to keep the relationship alive is continue talking. But one day you or the other person may not respond and then you know it's over, until they start communicating little and little until no more. Then several months or year/s later someone will try to reignite the relationship you once had (if any luck you'll have another good few days or week, possibly even month/s) but this one might be shorter than the first. The truth is there is no real way to keep a long distance relationship alive for everybody (everybody's different so this may not go for everyon). If you keep incontent in real life then there's a chance for you to have a long lasting relationship (but jt depends on the person). Mostly Everything is impermanent and will stop eventually, that is why it's important to cherish the good moments we had (or have).

• DH

  dheztiny

  2023-06-28

  電話を使うことに決まってるじゃないかw

• TA

  taikareform

  2023-06-28

  You don’t, they don’t work

• MO

  mortibi

  2023-06-28

  only long distance relationship i have is my left and right eye

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